Communication: If we are not completely present listening, understanding, and loving they are not talking.
Opening up the lines of communication between you and, your teen my seem like a far off complicated fantasy. It’s a fact that parents just don’t relate to the problems that their teens are facing. Parents as a whole tend to feel lost when talking to teenagers. Their problems seem simple, compared to the problems we face on a daily bases trying to make ends meet. They lose trust and, stop telling us anything because were probably not going to be listening anyway. Their love life, piercing, tattoos, and peer issues simply aren’t as important as putting food on the table.
Parents aren’t understanding that all of these small issues are very big to them. They are developing their identity and, all of those things from the list above are apart of that development. Their identity sets them aside from everyone else and, that’s where their Dharma {life’s purpose} lies. They are constantly testing different things out, to see if it feels good to them. Finding out where their talents are and, how they can expand and grow into that greatness that is theirs alone. When you began to open your heart to understand that what is important to them and what is important to us are very different, and it should be. Only then will you start to listen and restore trust to openly communicate with them.
Make the intention loud and clear right now to start listening and, be empathetic to every little thing that they feel in their heart to share with you. You will be amazed at how quickly they will began to trust you. It wont happen over night but, it’s a place to start from.
A lot of times parents take it personally when children and teens act out.
“Why did they do that?”
“They are disrespecting me!”
“What are all my friends going to think of me?”
“Does their behavior make me look like a bad parent?”
“You are embracing me!”
We are so busy taking what ever they did to heart that we tend to over react and, immediately close all lines of communication. By over reacting you are sending a loud and clear signal not to come to you. Fear of you blowing everything out of proportion is a loss of trust that is hard to get back. Children are bombarded with taboo situations everyday that they would like to talk to you about. I say children, because once they reach their teens a lot of us forget that they are still children and, they are trying to figure out the best way to learn and grow. First and foremost ,take ME and I out of the picture. Whatever terrible thing they did, they did it to learn from it and, it has nothing to do with you. Its not about you and, thinking it is, only hurts your chances of ever being trusted to talk to!
By being completely present, listening, empathetic, and understanding you are showing unconditional love in a calm open arms way. Communication is the natural next step in your journey through teenage self exploration!
The feeling that arises when you’re in a state of complete awareness of this moment. Rather than being lost in thought, your awareness and consciousness is right here in the Now. You’re present. In this state, you experience the infinite peace of Being. This peace is Presence.
Expectations
After a certain age caregivers seem to expect a unrealistic amount of stuff from teens. High expectations make them not even want to talk to you. Communication is impossible is this situation. Because parents see teens as adults and not children we expect them to take on as much if not more responsibilities then we do. The absolute fact is that they are still children and, they want to have some time to play and have fun. It is perfectly natural to strive for fun at this age and, they should be allowed to do so on a daily basis. All of the daily expectations like clean the house, help with younger siblings, get good grades, good behavior, don’t give in to peer pressure, learn to drive, and be safe and responsible with your car, are unrealistic to achieve.
Ask your teenager “child” to try their best to achieve what they can and, allow that to be good enough for you. Encourage them to achieve the things that are really important to their life’s purpose. This will give them the time they need to still be children. Think about that for a moment! Playing, having fun, and using your imagination is the best possible recipe for manifestation! Isn’t that the point! Learning to manifest your life into anything you want? Grabbing Dharma {life’s purpose} with both hands real tight and not letting go! That’s the gift we give when we allow teenagers time to play, imagine, and have fun!
Let go of expectations and you will give them the gift of Dharma!
It will be easy to talk to them in this beautiful state of peace!
~Law of Attraction The term used to denote the attractive nature of the universe in which like energies come together. By virtue of your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions, you are attracting certain people, opportunities, and circumstances into your life in order to create whatever experience you choose and thus create a new and more expansive version of yourself.~
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The Law of Dharma “Your Purpose In Life”
Everyone has a purpose in life…a special gift that only they can give to others. From the day we are born we strive to discover dharma. While discovering our life’s purpose we experience the ecstasy of our own spirit, which is the ultimate goal of all goals. The total knowing that you can do something better than anyone else in the whole world. You could teach children about Dharma right from the beginning, it would have a profound effect on their lives.
Inspire your child’s life purpose by asking them what their unique talents are and, how they can best help people with that talent. Allow quiet time {meditation} to find out for themselves that the biggest part of them is spiritual. Essentially we are all spiritual beings that have taken manifestation in physical form.
Encourage them to shut off all of those magnificent technologies they enjoy, for just a couple minutes each day to bask in the beauty of their true nature.
Ahhhhh! Beautiful ME! I am brilliantly unique and, I love IT! I offer so much more than anyone can see right NOW! Believe in me, for I will expand into ME! SOON, soon I will reveal my gifts for all to see! SEE me, for my true ME! Know “I AM in a state of BLISS” when I am sharing my talents with YOU!
I arrived here with so many gifts!
